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Halloween- Couple's Style...

Since Halloween is just around the corner I thought I’d pay tribute to all the couple’s out there who use this time to brag about their coupledum. You see Halloween isn’t just a time to eat lots of candy without guilty, scare little children, and pretend to be someone else for a night, it’s also the one time of the year when you and your special someone can excessively brag to everyone that you’re together and you’re a couple without it being a big deal. But what you have to understand is that there is a right way to do this, a way that will make people go “Oh my gosh you guys look great”, and a not so right aka stupid way to do this, a way that will make people either pissed off or laughing behind your back.

Let’s first go over the wrong way to do Halloween as a couple since to me it’s the most important. I mean you don’t even really need to know the right way as long as you know the wrong way and how to avoid it. I think one of the worst costumes is that couple that tries to be like a dinner plate or a fruit salad or something. I mean honestly what were you thinking when you and your someone picked out two pieces of fruit to walk around in in public. And to be honest, just because you’re a hot dog and a ketchup bottle, or worse a ketchup and mustard bottle, doesn’t say you’re a couple. It says you like to embarrass yourselves, together. Another thing to avoid when picking out couple’s costumes is that you don’t want to make one of you look great (or at least ok) and the other look stupid. You’re a couple. You either look stupid together, or not at all. I do not for the life of me get why people go in things like Little Red Riding Hood and the Big Bad Wolf or Little Bo Peep and her lost sheep. You want a sheep to take around Halloween night, buy a stuffed one.

With the negative out of the way let’s move on to the positive side of Halloween couple costumes. In truth, I love the idea of dressing like a couple. It’s fun, it’s cute, and for the most part people get such a kick out of it, as long as you do it the right way. A perfect couple costume- a celebrity couple. A lot of times these are also the easiest costumes because you probably have a lot of the stuff in your own closet. Celebrity couples are also a great way to control how you want to come off to people. If you just want to go fun go with something like Sonny and Cher. If you want to go super sexy go with someone like Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee (absolutely one of my favorites even if they’re not together anymore). And the ultimate celebrity costume right now in my opinion would be Mr. and Mrs. Britney Spears, pre-pregnancy that is. Another great couple costume idea is going as characters. Now this includes characters from a movie, a book, a fairy tale is really popular. Disney couples are always a great idea because people can tell who you are. Cinderella and the Prince is definitely my favorite. When trying to take characters from a book or a movie it cant be a little more difficult unless you pick something very very distinct. It might take more work and some explaining at the party, but it’s still a really great and creative idea. Finally some random costumes that are always fun favorites: cheerleader and the football player, pimp and ho, naughty school girl and the teacher, and if you’re anxious for Christmas like me try Mr. and Mrs. Claus (sexy or not, you choose).

Halloween is no doubt a great time to show you’re together so take advantage of it. If you’re going to a big party, start planning early. Listen to eachother’s ideas and compromise on something. Don’t ever force anyone in to anything they don’t like. And remember, have fun with it. It’s the one night you can be anything or anyone you want to be without people freaking out. Happy Halloween Everyone!

Posted by Manda at 01:34 PM | Comments (0)

Childize Your Relationship...

Remember how simple relationships were when you were little? You could just walk up to a boy or girl you like, say “you’re my boy/girl friend”, and walk away with a new relationship. You never had to worry about how much you would see each other, what you would get each other on holidays or your “anniversary”, and if you wanted to see someone else it was never a long drawn out process of goodbye. You simply went to them, said “I’m not your boy/girl friend anymore”, and moved on to the cute new kid in your class.

If only relationships were that simple now that we’re older. And you’d think that as we get older, and gain more experience, they would be. Isn’t that the way it’s logically supposed to go? But no, instead it only gets harder. When we want to go on a date with someone we have to spend days, possibly weeks, sending them signals only to be turned down. No matter what we always seem to look desperate or too aggressive when asking someone out. And when it comes to breaking up, nothing is more agonizing. All the “it’s not you, it’s me” and “don’t worry, we can still be friends” bullshit that people throw around. It’s ridiculous. And to be honest, I’m tired of it. I mean just because relationships are more work when we get older doesn’t mean they have to lose their childish simplicity. I see the difficulties my friends have when they’re dating, all the games that are played. When you were seven you never would’ve played games, so why do it now? So here’s the deal, all you daters out there, I want you to vow today, right now, that you will childize (yea that’s my word of the day haha) your dating habits. Don’t use stupid lines to impress someone, just go up to him or her say hello and introduce yourself. Don’t secretly date five people at once and spend your whole life covering your tracks. Don’t play head games with the person you’re dating, be completely upfront with them. Even if the truth sucks, it’s usually the better choice. Oh yea and don’t forget that the most simple gifts can also be people’s favorites. Homemade cards, a candlelight dinner, and dare I say it a mix tape (only get with the generation people and make it on iTunes haha). I know that we can’t go back in life and that it’ll never be as simple or as sweet as the day Bobby or Sarah made you that mud pie with a half dead daisy sticking out of it just to show that they cared, but maybe if we think simpler and expect less of our relationships, they won’t be so hard or complicated. Who knows? I guess one can only wish.

Posted by Manda at 03:25 PM | Comments (0)

The Place To Meet...

Recently I received a note from a woman saying she was new to the dating game and wasn’t exactly sure where to go to meet people. Now I know this happens a lot, especially if you were married or in a committed relationship for a long period of time, so I decided to compile a short list of my favorite places to meet people.

1. The Gym—The gym is a great place to meet people. There are so many different kinds of people and starting a conversation with someone isn’t too hard, especially for women. The best way for a woman to start a conversation with a man she’s interested in is to ask for some help with a machine or if he’ll spot her. Don’t act stupid, just unsure. For men I suggest just offering to help a woman who may look confused, or be simple and while “waiting” for a machine or weights a woman you’re interested in is using strike up a conversation. A few other reasons the gym is a great place to meet people are the facts that if you get shot down there are so many more people around and at least you know you’ll have one thing in common, a love of getting in/being in shape and keeping health. Build from there!

2. The Grocery Store—It may sound crazy, but the grocery store is a great place to meet people for the simple reason that a grocery cart’s an open book. I mean think about, what you buy at the grocery store says a lot about yourself. For example, if a guy were trying to pick me up at the grocery store he would be able to tell about me through my cart that 1) I’m in to keeping healthy (my light/low fat everything! lol) and 2) I live alone (a lot of tv dinners—only because I have no oven though or I’d cook and it wouldn’t be so obvious, but that’s beside the point lol). So when trying to meet someone in the grocery store make sure to scope out their cart before making a move. If you’re a health freak, you don’t want to pick someone up who’s stuffing chips and soda in their cart, and if you can’t stand a high maintence person, you might not want to hit on the person with lots of beauty/skin care/personal products. And when you actually go to talk to the person, here’s a great idea: go to the aisle they’re in, pick up something near what they’re picking up, and ask them a simple question like “Is this ______ any good?” or “Do you know anything good to make with this?” After their answer thank them and immediately introduced yourself. Build from there!

3. Clubs/Groups/Classes—I’m sure this isn’t the first place you’d think to go and meet someone, but it really is one of the best. Having common interests is obviously a huge part of a real relationship. When you join a club or group or decide to take a class you’re putting yourself in an atmosphere filled with people who share something in common with you. An example that I always think of is cooking. If you really love cooking and really want to meet people take a cooking class. You’ll meet many different people and already have something huge to talk about. The best part about this meeting place is that not only do you get to meet a wide variety of people, but you get to do and improve on something you love. It’s a win-win situation.

Now I couldn’t talk about my most favorite places without at least quickly mentioning my least favorite places to meet people. I’ve really only got two: bars and/or dance clubs. These are great places to hook up, but not to meet someone to have a relationship with. People in these places are looking to have a good time and relax, they don’t want to be bothered with the thought of commitment. There’s nothing wrong with this of course, I just don’t want to lead you in to a dead end. And I don’t think it’s impossible to meet “the one” in a bar or dance club, I’m just saying it’s not the first place to go. Most important when trying to meet new people, no matter where you are, is to try to find a link between you and the other person. Look at what they’re buying, drinking, doing, or even wearing. Be observant and be confident. Oh yea and relax! Don’t get discouraged if you get shot down, there are a million more fish in the sea and one of them will be right for you.

Posted by Manda at 03:00 PM | Comments (0)

Being Afraid of the "F" Word...

So my boyfriend told me a story yesterday about one of his friends that I found kind of funny. Apparently one of his friends recently got engaged, but is deathly fearful of the word “fiancé”. Anytime anyone around him uses the six letter word, he sweats and even shakes a little, never mind if he himself has to use the word. Well after my boyfriend told me this story the first question I had of course was “Well, why is he like this?” I mean has he had some horrific experience, is he not really ready to get married but this was the next logical step, what is it? My boyfriend’s reply “Cause guys are just like that.”

Excuse me? Guys are what? Yea I kind of backed him a corner but come on, how can you get engaged yet be afraid of the word fiancé. IT’S A WORD! I know that it has a big meaning behind it, but it’s really ok. And I know this isn’t just a guy problem. I know there are plenty of women out there who are deathly afraid of the word fiancé, and probably the word husband too. I understand that marriage is a scary thing. There is so much that goes in to. And the statistics of marriage don’t help either. To think that one of every three marriages end in divorce (even though I think that statistics is a little tweaked, but whatever) scares the shit out of me! But here’s the thing, if you are that afraid of the word fiancé, maybe you shouldn’t be using it, as in maybe you shouldn’t be engaged. Some of the reason why the divorce rate is so high nowadays is because people get married just because it’s the next logical step. So my advice for the day is simple, probably obvious: if you can’t use the word fiancé, don’t get engaged! You aren’t doing anyone any good, and you shouldn’t be doing things you’re deathly afraid of anyways. The fear of marriage isn’t like the fear of heights where you just get over it, get on the roller coaster, and hope for the best. It’s way more important than that. And if I ever do find out why this guy is so panicked about the word, I’ll hopefully be able to pass the info on.

Posted by Manda at 04:40 PM | Comments (0)

Nothing In Common Anymore...

So I was watching TV the other night and well I heard a couple, a couple who’s been married more than ten years, say that they just don’t have anything in common anymore. Anymore? What does that mean?

How is it possible that you just don’t have anything in common with your spouse anymore? I’ve heard people say this before, but I just never understood it. Now I understand that people change, and I also understand that people get married too quick, but I do not understand not having anything in common anymore. It seems to me that when people get divorced it isn’t because they don’t have anything in common anymore it’s because they argue all the time or they can’t agree on anything or one of them cheats. But then again do all those things happen because you don’t have anything in common anymore? I’m not comparing marriage to dating, but in other relationships I’ve had it wasn’t that we broke up because we didn’t have anything in common anymore, it was because we didn’t have anything in common ever! I’m not even sure how we got together, but at least I know I never would have married him. And to top it off, the people that I’ve seen (not saying this is everyone) aren’t even trying to do anything about it. They’re just going on with their daily lives like nothing is wrong even though they will sit there and tell the producer that things between them aren’t so great. Ya know there is such a thing called marriage counseling people. And if you get there and after weeks, or even months, of talking things out and hearing the perspective of a licensed third person doesn’t help, well then at least you’ll have realized that it probably isn’t because you don’t have anything in common anymore, it’s either because you never did or because there are underlying issues that one of you wasn’t putting on the table. And another idea to put out there, maybe if you took some time for just the two of you (now I understand with kids this may be hard but maybe they’ll go away to summer camp or a relatives for a week on vacation too) you could reconnect. Hey it’s worth a shot isn’t it? But seriously, could someone please shed some light on this for me? Do people really change that much? Cause honestly the thought that my boyfriend might change so much 10 years in to our marriage that we need a divorce really scares the shit out of me!

Posted by Manda at 07:17 PM | Comments (1)

What The Hell Will One Night Do...

Warning: I’m sorry but because of the subject matter, this entry is probably going to come off a tad over bitchy. But it’s late and well this subject really pissed me off. And it’s my blog. Ha! So please bear with me and read on anyways.
So at the moment (even though I won’t be posting it at this time) it is 12:08 in the morning and I’m up because I just HAD to watch this talk show. This certain talk show’s theme today is couples who want a one day free pass. This means that for one day they can go on an all day date with another person and that no matter what happens their partner can not be upset.

Now not that breaking up for one day so you can date someone else (for any reason) doesn’t piss me off or anything, I mean come on this can never ever EVER be a good idea, that really isn’t my issue with this one day free pass thing. My issue is what the hell do you expect to change in one day with one person? The main reason the couple on the show seemed to have for doing this was 1) one of them likes to stay home and be a couple and occasionally go out and the other wants to go out all the time and 2) he wants to make sure that this is it and that this is right for him forever. I understand these reasons, I’m not sure I agree with both of them, but I do understand what they’re saying. I don’t however believe that breaking up for a day and going out with someone else is the way to solve the issues. I mean seriously, not to repeat myself but what the hell do you expect to happen in one day with one person?! I’ve been on dates before where I really liked and really clicked with the person on the first night out and then on the second night it was totally different. I mean yea they (the couple on the talk show) both had a great time with the other person that night but was it really worth possibly screwing with what they have now. Mind you, this is a couple who says that even with their problems they are completely in love with one another and yet they feel the need to test their relationship with other people. That just doesn’t sit right with me. If you are in a relationship where you are not sure if this is right for you or you feel that maybe there are things out there you are missing, you need to talk with your current partner about it. I recommend cooling off for a bit. You don’t need to stop seeing one another, but maybe you shouldn’t just solely see each other. And this definitely should go on more than a day. Try a few months actually. If you feel comfortable going back to your partner after one month, try two months. You obviously need some space and you need some time to be alone (well kind of). The reason I say a month at minimum is because so many false emotions will go through you in the first week or two, I can promise it. It’s just like right after you break up with someone when you’re feeling sad and lonely and you want to go crawling back to them. They’re false emotions and you need remember that. You need to remember that you’re doing this for an important and serious reason (or you should not be doing it at all) and that if it were bothering you so much that you just had to do this then going back on it would probably be a huge mistake. Look you aren’t going to learn anything in 24 hours that you didn’t know the 24 before, and as I’ve seen now a stunt like this can almost always only cause pain. You need some time. You need some space. It’s ok. It happens, and you shouldn’t push it out of your mind just because you think it’s bad or wrong or that your partner won’t like it. This isn’t about your partner. This is about you. Talk with them. Listen to them. Just please don’t split off for a day and expect everything to be all better. It won’t. So sorry if I just crushed anyone’s expectations. Not!

Posted by Manda at 12:58 AM | Comments (3)

The Little Things In Life

Most people would say that relationship wise I’m pretty lucky. They look at my boyfriend and I’s relationship and see that we take amazing vacations more than once a year, that he flies 1500 miles every month and a ½ to see me for only 4 days, and that going out for a high class fancy dinner isn’t a once in a blue occurrence for us. And yes I agree with them, I am lucky, but not because of those things. Those things are just the icing on the cake they aren’t the substance of it.

The things that really make me feel lucky are the little things he does. The small things that really make my eyes light up and my smile shine bright. Last week is a perfect example. If you go on to Seacoast Online and scroll down the page you will find that there is a web cam located in downtown Portsmouth. It sits high above the street right by Muddy River, just in case you wanted to know. Well last week when I was feeling a little homesick my boyfriend told me to start up the cam. He was on his way home from work and, although it isn’t on his way home, he told me he was going to go down and drive past the camera and wave. It was awesome! haha Honestly just seeing him made my entire month and it made it possible to make it though another day here without him. I love when he wakes me in the morning with the smell of bacon and Princess waffles so we can have a relaxing breakfast in bed, I love when he takes me to the park at the drop of a hat, no matter the weather, just so we can walk around, and I love that when I’ve been craving watermelon all day just as we get in to bed he asks me like 5 more times if he can go get me some before the store closes. It’s all these little things that really make me lucky. The things that show me he really knows me and that he really cares. The big things in life aren’t meaningless, they’re just bonuses I think. There’s nothing wrong with your boyfriend taking you on trips or buying you expensive jewelry, but is that really why you love him? Probably not. You love him because at the end of the day he’ll rub your feet even if he’s exhausted too. You love him because he’ll sit through stupid sappy movies with you when the game’s on. You love him because instead of stealing the covers back in the middle of the night, he’ll just freeze. When you think about how lucky you are in your relationships, I don’t want you to think about what he’s bought you lately or where he’s taken you to eat, I want you to think of what he’s really done for you lately. And don’t forget to let him know you appreciate everything he does do. Do little things for him, little things that show you care. We as a dating and married society need to be focusing more on the little things. They’re amazing and they should never ever be taken for granted.

Posted by Manda at 10:38 AM | Comments (1)

Ending It Etiquette

So I’ve talked a lot about issues before a relationship and during a relationship, but sometimes those times aren’t your problem. Sometimes the thing that’s really weighing on your mind is the breakup. It’s ok. Breakups happen. The thing is that when it does happen, it’s important to know how to go about it properly. Contrary to popular beliefs, there is a right way and a wrong way to break up with someone. To figure it out all you have to do is take in to consideration a few facts about the relationship. But if you don’t really feel like taking the time to analyze the whole thing and figure it out yourself (which I’d appreciate because if you did do it yourself why the hell would you need this entry haha), here are a few ways to break up with some the right way:

1. Choosing The Place— Where you are when you breakup with your partner really depends on how long you were together. If you’ve only been out a few times or have only been together a few weeks, you should be able to get away with a phone call saying it just isn’t working out and you want to move on. If you’ve been dating a few months, I recommend going out for drinks. Do it somewhere mutually liked that is comfortable for the both of you. Any sort of long term relationship, whatever your definition of that may be (I’d say 1 ½ to 2 years) really calls for going to their house or a park, somewhere quiet where the both of you can really talk it out. If you plan on, and actually think it will work out, be friends after the relationship, then maybe you could go to lunch or dinner, but please remember to pay your way. You aren’t dating anymore so don’t expect to not have to chip in for the bill.

2. Choosing A Style— The style of your breakup is very important and should reflect why you are breaking up. A common reason for breaking up is that it just isn’t working out anymore. This phrase can include not clicking as a couple, bored, feeling not as much interest in the other person, feeling you’re moving in different directions in your life, feeling it isn’t the right time in your life for you to be together, ect. If this is your reason, you should make sure you talk to them in a sweet tone, show them your sad about the breakup too, and most importantly, make sure they realize it isn’t them or you, it’s the two of you together. If they don’t make you a priority (you don’t need to be number 1 though), I would say go to their house. Tell them all your feelings and explain to them that you don’t want to be in a relationship where you feel like you don’t matter. Make it crisp, clear, and to the point. If your partner was mean to you (I mean seriously mean to you), either meet in a public place or if they were a real ass, just call them up. Tell them sternly and powerfully (do not back down!) how they make you feel and that they aren’t worth your time anymore. If they had or are having an affair (you must have proof), feel free to meet them in a public place (not a restaurant!!!) and make a huge scene! Yell, scream, cry, whatever you need to do to make yourself feel better. You don’t have to make a scene obviously but I’m pretty sure I would, and I don’t care how immature that makes me look. haha And finally, if you are having the affair (naught naughty!) or are even considering having one, remember to act casual and be calm. If you want you can even use the tactics from “it’s just not working out”. You can of course tell them the truth, that you’re having an affair that is, but why pour salt on an open wound. Or if they’re really an ass, tell them right out you’re seeing someone else and that they were never good in bed anyways! haha

3. Word Things Carefully— There isn’t really too much that I can do here. I mean every breakup is different and so is every breakup speech. A few quick thoughts though. Your tone should reflect why you’re breaking up. If it’s because of something bad, be strong. If it’s because it’s not working out, be soft. Oh and never ever ever, seriously ever, use the phrase “It’s not you, it’s me”. The whole world knows that’s bull, so why wouldn’t your partner?

4. Future Contact Or Not?—It’s an important decision, ya know to see them again or not. Unfortuantely it’s not all your decision though. If they don’t want to see you again, they won’t. But if you do want to eventually be friends with them, put it on the table. Even if they don’t reply right that second, you never know if they’ll really call again or not. If they’re really upset though, I’m not sure I’d say anything to them about seeing eachother again, especially if they’re upsetness (shut up, I know its not a real word haha) is extreme anger! If they ask you if you want to see them again, be honest. Please don’t tell them yes if you never plan on calling or seeing them again. You wouldn’t want anyone to do it to you so please don’t do it to anyone else.

How you breakup with someone is really all about two things: how long you dated and how your relationship was. Although you should really keep in mind why you’re breaking up when deciding how to do it, it doesn’t need to be a deciding factor. And after the breakup is finally over, you should feel a sense of relief and calming. If you go home and cry your eyes out all night, that’s ok. Just because you’re crying doesn’t mean it’s out of sadness. If you go home and cry for weeks, maybe you should examine why you broke up in with them in the first place. Breaking up is a hard thing, we all know that. But keep in mind that missing out on what could be because you’re afraid to get out of what is, is so much harder.

Posted by Manda at 04:02 PM | Comments (0)

Ex Screwing Etiquette

So a while ago I wrote a blog about saying “Screw You!” to your ex, but apparently I didn’t title it right and people were reading it because they thought it was going to be about the etiquette of screwing your ex, literally. Well here it is people. I hope you like it. I hope you follow it. And I hope your ex doesn’t all the sudden suck in bed. haha

Ok, everyone who has ever had a one time (or more) roll in the sheets with an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, please raise your hand. Now all of you who don’t have your hands raised, you’re liars! Seriously, I don’t believe you. And to be honest, I don’t even understand why you’re lying about it. You know I can’t see you right? haha I mean maybe you weren’t doing it all night or anything, but for the sake of this entry I’ll even count heavy petting as ‘hooking up. Now everyone raise their hands again please. Yea that’s more like it. And let me guess, afterward you felt pretty stupid and spent the whole next day walking around like a zombie saying to yourself “Oh my God, what the hell did I do?” I also know that sometimes you even spent days analyzing the situation. Does he/she still like me? Does he/she want to get back together? Does he/she expect this every time we meet up? I wish I knew this just because I was smart, but the truth is I know this because I have done it a MILLION times. Probably even more than that to be honest. Even to this day, even knowing the etiquette behind the game, if I weren’t attached I’d probably still go through that mindset every time I had any physical contact with an ex-boyfriend. I mean I have gotten a little better with the whole thing, but I really stress little. My point is though, sex with your ex (outer or inner) is ok. I swear it is. I’m not sure I recommend it all the time, but an occasional slip doesn’t make you a horrible person, or a slut. As long as you mind your manners and follow the rules. (And please keep in mind these same rules can be applied to one night stands.)

Rule #1: Always Think Safety First—I can’t even stress this enough. If you aren’t together anymore, you really can’t trust that you’re the only one he/she is with at the moment. You don’t know what they’re doing or who they’re doing. So for your own sake please always remember to use protection, and while birth control is good ladies, a condom is really what you need. I mean you aren’t really trying to protect yourself from their other partner’s pregnancy so haha. And if you think for any reason or you decide that this is going to become a frequent occurance, don’t be afraid to treat your new bed buddy like a boyfriend or girlfriend in the sense of asking them to be tested. In fact if you are still good friends you could even go together This is your body, this is your life, and if you know the other person has other partners, don’t be afraid to make them get tested constantly. If they won’t, I don’t really recommend ‘slipping’ with them.

Rule #2: Spice It Up Baby— A good thing about ‘slipping’ with an ex is that sexually you already feel comfortable with them, or at least you should, and so there is no reason to feel embarrassed about using them as um practice. If there is something you’re interested in trying, but don’t want to look stupid in front of your next boyfriend/girlfriend, the person that really matters, try it out with your ex. Now don’t go looking for them, knocking on their door screaming “I just saw this thing in Kama Sutra and I want to try it out” but if you happen to be boppin around in bed with them, don’t be afraid to speak up. Exes are the perfect practice area!

Rule #3: Don’t Expect Anything— Long ago, in my more promiscuous days, I’ll admit I had a few run ins with some exes and even one or two one night stands and the next day I always did the same thing. I expected everything. I expected he liked me, he’d wanna hang out again, and that eventually I’d probably be his girlfriend. Would you like to take a guess how many times that actually happened? Zero. A big fat annoying ugly zero! When you ‘hook up’ with an ex, you need to keep in mind that unless you were on a date when you ‘hooked up’ you are just ‘hooking up’. That’s it. So when they don’t call the next day, don’t freak out. It’s important that both of you know before getting physical what you want out of it. If the other person doesn’t say it first, don’t be afraid to be the first to say “Hey ya know I’m just kind of looking for something tonight”. And when it’s over, you might want to say something subtle about whether you want to see the person again or not. Something like “This was fun maybe we’ll do it again sometime” or a playful “Seems like all our heats still there. Hope I run in to you again” (that one ladies, should be followed by a flirty giggle and possible hair flip haha). You’ll immediately be able to tell whether or not they agree with you. No matter what their mouth says, their face will always tell the truth. And don’t be disappointed if they don’t want to meet again. There are like a billion people out there, so don’t worry you won’t be alone forever. haha

So now let’s review: When we run in to an ex at a bar, restaurant, wherever, we’re going to do these three things—protect ourselves, be way hotter and have way more fun than you did your whole relationship, and never ever expect that this is the gateway to 2nd –time-aroundsville. Everyone got it? Good! Class dismissed!

Posted by Manda at 03:41 PM | Comments (1)