Has anybody seen the new show on Bravo, “The Real Housewives of Orange County”? Well, one of the couples on the show that they follow is a man, mid thirties, child from a previous marriage, and his fiancé, mid 20s, little bit of a party girl. To give a quick background: Jo, the fiancé, doesn’t work b/c Slade, her fiancé, wants her to stay home and take care of the house and children and what not; and it doesn’t hurt that he makes bucket loads of money so she really doesn’t have to work. Well Jo wants to work. She’s a college graduate with dreams of her own and well, she wants to pursue them. So any who, 2 weeks ago Jo got a job, her “dream job”, and well Slade freaked when she told him.

So this caused a large argument between my boyfriend and I about, if one of us got a chance to do our dream job, if we’d need to consult the other one about it. Unlike with the buying things situation my boyfriend said that we should say something to the other partner before we accepted the job, and I said that unless it involved a move, there is no reason I should have to consult him before taking the job.

My reasoning is that well it’s my job, it’s not his. He shouldn’t be able to tell me where to and where not to work, not that I think he would, but still what if it was my dream job, but I’d be making less money, and so he’d tell me he didn’t think I should take it. Bull! It’s my dream job!

My boyfriend’s stance is that it isn’t about consulting him. It’s about informing him what’s going on. Yes I agree that I should tell him what’s going on, but that’s my boyfriend. What if he was the type of guy who wanted me to consult him, meaning basically ask him for permission (like in Slade and Jo’s situation); then what would I do? I would never do what Jo did, just walked in the house one afternoon and said “Honey, I got a job!” but I definitely don’t think that I should have to “be allowed” to get a job.

So I was just wondering what married couples thought? Should Jo have had to “consult” with Slade about getting a job, or should it have been OK for her to just say “Slade I want to get a job. I was offered my dream job and I’m going to take.”

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